2002-09-18 More Thoughts

 

I have had an idea about some of the root of my insecurities came to me earlier this week.  The lack of having both parents earlier than my brother by 5 years is important.  My brother is much more self-assured, while I am riddled by doubt and uncertainty.  Perhaps those additional 5 years of support made a difference.  I do not remember when my parents got divorced.  I remember I was in Margaret Beaks Elementary School.  It happened just before or just after school started.  My brother says I was 8 or 9.  That may be correct.  I remember the previous year being lots of playing.  I think it may have been second or third grade.

            The reason for this train of thought is my daughter.  I notice how much she looks to us for support and comfort.  That seems to me that if we miss those moments, we erode the level of confidence she is building.  The balance point is when she can start understanding that she can stand on her own.  In addition to that, how to assess the risk of an action.